The old saying goes, trust is the basis of every relationship, but this trust, unfortunately, can be broken, often due to infidelity, and other times it is the result of one partner doing something that betrays the other partner’s sense of security and confidence. Confidence can also be broken when any kind of expectations in the relationship are not met. This is often the case because unfortunately these expectations are not always communicated with the spouse, and as a result, the lines are crossed. Whatever the reason for this defeated sense of trust in the relationship, hope is not lost.You can rebuild trust in the relationship because of love, whether it is the normal relationship between husband and wife or intimate relationship, but doing so requires action from both parties involved.
Tips to regain passion in your marriage
Changing the pattern of intimacy
Maybe your partner is in denial or just being too strong. Avoid criticizing each other and stop the “blame game”. Mix things up to end the struggle for power. For example, estranged people may want to engage in the marital relationship more often and stalkers try to find ways to tell their partner “you are sexy,” in subtle ways while avoiding criticism and demands for rapprochement.
Hold hands often
Holding hands, hugging, and touching can release oxytocin, causing a calming sensation. Studies show that emotions and feelings are released between them. Additionally, physical affection reduces stress and anxiety hormones, thus reducing daily levels of the stress hormone cortisol.
Allow tension to build Our brains feel more pleasure when expecting a reward continues for some time before we get it. So take your time
while caring for the other person, share fantasies, change locations, and make the intimate relationship more romantic between you.
Separate intimacy from routine
Plan a time for intimacy and avoid talking about relationship problems and household chores in the bedroom. Sexual arousal decreases when we are distracted and tense, so we must avoid talking about problems before intimacy.
Make time to spend with your partner
Try a variety of activities that bring you both joy. Enjoy flirtation as a way to stimulate sexual desire and intimacy. “Every positive thing you do in your relationship is feeling intimate,” says Dr. Gottman.
Emphasis on affectionate touch
Offer your partner a back or shoulder massage, this kind of intimacy is what binds people, but a passionate touch is a powerful way to show and rekindle passion even if you are not a sensitive person.
Practice being more emotionally vulnerable
Share your deepest desires, fantasies, and desires with your partner. If you fear emotional intimacy, consider engaging in one-on-one or couple therapy.
Maintain a sense of curiosity
Try new ways to make each other fun. See intimacy as an opportunity to get to know your partner better. Over time, you will enjoy discovering distinct and unique aspects of your partner.
The type of intimacy you are in
Practice intimacy in a different way, including gentle, loving, intimate, break the routine and try new things as sexual needs change each time.
Make intimacy a priority
Set the mood for intimacy before television or work dampens your passion. A light meal along with your favorite music can set the stage for a great relationship.
The good news is that letting your partner influence you can re-ignite the spark you enjoyed before. In fact, Dr. Gottman reminds us that friendship is the glue that can hold a marriage together.